When we met, I didn’t have much feeling for her either way.
She was good and all, but I didn’t really see a future.
We’ve said “I love you” and things were great during the first 3 months of the relationship. He started becoming paranoid and thinking that I was flirting with other guys, that I didn’t like him as much as he liked me, etc.
The one thing I wish I had realized a decade ago, when the guy I considered to be the love of my life cheated on me, is that it really had nothing to do with me, it was the result of his own internal issues. The reason I was so confused back then is I didn’t have an understanding of the male psyche, and I didn’t know the internal psychological factors that cause men to cheat.Still, we saw each other a few times, hooked up and spent some really amazing time together. We sent a couple messages back and forth over break, then out of the blue, she called me and asked for my thoughts on us being exclusive.If it were today, I would have said “not at the moment” (in the nicest way possible), but for some reason I said, “Sure.Let’s be exclusive and see where it goes.” So I committed myself into an exclusive relationship that I wasn’t 100% into. It wasn’t readily apparent at first, but after about 3 months I felt like I was putting in all the energy to try and keep the relationship together.I felt as though I didn’t really know what she was thinking or how she was feeling – it was almost like I was dating someone I didn’t really even know.