They need more time and attention from you right now.
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I would be gravely concerned about a man’s character if he did not want to fulfill those commitments. Whether he was the perpetrator of infidelity or the victim, the tailwinds of cheating bring an ugly stench to the divorce process.
More often than not, it’s anger, self-pity, and feelings of entitlement that fuel a man’s complaints over support. So if you decide to stick around, I’d recommend you prepare for more than a nose full.
That’s energy and space that he can’t and won’t channel into you in positive ways. He doesn’t consistently spend time with his children.
You’re mourning the loss of the most serious relationship you’ve ever had. Looking back, I see what I did right, and I see the mistakes I made and what I could have done better. It’s okay to cry on your girlfriend’s shoulder, and it’s okay to have an angry outburst. But don’t jump into a serious relationship and certainly don’t jump back into marriage for a long time. When a man has truly processed his divorce and moved on, he should be able to speak to it with compassion, kindness, and wisdom.When he minimizes or avoids the topic, however, it suggests that either he has not yet worked through all the stages of grief (denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance); or, he hasn’t yet hashed through the legalities (or possibly even begun). He can’t just flick it off his shoulder as he would a bug. Anger is a normal and healthy phase for your separated man to go through.Alcohol will intensify those feelings and make you want more alcohol to try to soothe the pain. I hardly think getting divorced means you have to sit home by yourself and be lonely.