You can be the grossest, shittiest potato but if you're not fit as fuck, working at a job you can endure, and improving your ability to interact with other people, then you are the problem and not your gross, shitty potato.Never before did people have such a excess of romantic options.This is because you are 100% in control of your behavior and you have 0 control over others.
Romance has always been a numbers game (as in, getting the largest sample size in which to render the highest ratio of compatibility).
Technology has not brought anything new to the human condition that didn't already exist.
Personal classifieds, speed dating, sending a telegram to the nearest frontier town for a wife, it's all existed in one form or another.
If that's overwhelming for you than either break it down and take it day by day just like literally every other human, or just needlessly forgo yourself to a life of ascetic hermeticism.
It's always good to be suspicious of claims that it's not your fault you haven't gotten what you want when it comes to dating.