And if this is something you can't live without, you'd do better to break up with him now than to become more emotionally or sexually invested before breaking up with him later.
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Now we are five months into the relationship and things have stagnated a little. Our phone calls are getting shorter, we see each other less frequently, and he's been answering my texts sporadically. Obviously this is just a paraphrase; the details of each story vary.
In general the excitement he showed at the outset seems to have faded. I am completely in love with him and don't know if I can handle a break up. But the common thread among them, and the thing that I found so interesting, was that the woman's love grew gradually, over months, often starting as complete indifference.
By "love" I mean deep romantic attraction, as opposed to lust or long-term attachment.
We spent a lot of time together, and by three months I was in love.I agreed because I wanted to give it a chance, and I hadn't been on a date in a while.The first date went OK, so we kept seeing each other.I've dated countless women and it has always amazed me how little they know about men.If nothing else, this blog is an outlet for voicing my astonishment at the typical female's ignorance of the male mindset.