It’s important to make it clear what you are looking for so neither of you have unrealistic expectations about what is going to happen when you get together.
If one person is on the page of just wanting to hook up and the other is looking for a relationship, things can get really sticky really fast.
“If you’re scaring away someone who doesn’t want a relationship it’s a win/win,” Lo Dolce says.
“Don’t just accept hangouts if you’re in the market for a relationship.” If you start just hanging out with someone you want to pursue romantically, you’ll end up unsatisfied and let down.
“My boyfriend and I have date nights sometimes but we hang out all the time. Sometimes the line between date and hangout is merely using the word “date.” Lo Dolce says that you’ll know you are just hanging out if the use the words “hang out,” they aren’t putting in much effort or they don’t show interest in seeing you during the day.
Those are signs that they aren’t looking for anything serious and are only in the market for something casual.
I hadn’t manufactured it, “the spark” was alive and well all night.
“For now, if I like a girl and I choose to spend the day or night with her I consider it a date.” In a case like Charlie’s, it doesn’t hurt to inquire about their motives and expectations to make sure you’re both on the same page.
Carly, a sophomore at the University of Michigan, believes in a situation like the one Charlie presented, it needs to be established as a date because she feels if it's left unclear, it’s considered just hanging out.
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