It wasn't a sign of weakness that I needed to put in some effort; it was a sign of strength that I was willing to do it.
It's one of life's great ironies, that it feels so natural to feel bad about feeling bad. When we stop blaming ourselves for having room to grow, we're free to focus our energy on doing it.
This approach to handling our emotions can be incredibly damaging as time goes on.
Rather than suppressing and ignoring the way that we feel, it’s important to acknowledge our emotions for what they are.
Try approving of yourself and see what happens.” ~Louise L.
If you’re also looking to increase your capacity for self-soothing so you can depend less on validation from others, you may find these ideas helpful: Of course, this assumes you already keep a gratitude journal to recognize and celebrate all the good things in your day.
If you don’t, you can still take a few minutes every day to give yourself some credit.
Odds are, you aren’t always looking for someone’s advice or opinion when you come to them with a painful story.
You’re looking for them to confirm you didn’t do anything wrong—or if you did, that you’re not a bad person for it. The words you want to hear from someone else will be far more powerful if you fully believe what they’re saying.