Fifty-five percent of men in Gary's study have either not told their wives or lied after being confronted with hard evidence.
"I kind of tell people, 'If you're going to wait for him to come tell you, go buy a lottery ticket, because you like playing against the odds,'" Gary says.
I went downstairs every time I came home from work," he says. "Because it's not about the sex, what everyone's been made to believe.At the Golden Globes on Sunday night, aside from jump-starting a nation's weary soul with a rousing speech about equality, respect and a new tomorrow when nobody ever has to say "Me too," Oprah Winfrey...Actually, let's just take a moment to relive that again... During her speech, the idolized star of film, TV, talk shows, production, publishing and many, many hearts thanked a number of people, including her best friend of nearly 40 years, Gayle King, who was of course sitting at Winfrey's table as one of the VIPs along with Denzel Washington, Willem Dafoe, Barbra Streisand and James Brolin. It's about building a much more mutually beneficial relationship." Top reason for cheating? Ninety-two percent of men said it wasn't primarily about the sex. "I didn't feel comfortable going to the one person in the world I should be going to, which is my wife." Oprah.com: The signs you could be missing With daily worries like bills, children and chores, Gary says it's easy for couples to drift away from appreciating one another like they should. They're searching and looking for somebody to build them up to make them feel valued." Men have a winning mentality, Gary says. Once it's a blowout and they know their team can't win, television goes off. If I can give you knowledge that says that I could have proof that if you do certain things, you can lead your relationship to a better place, that will be much better for you as well because it's not just about stopping tragedy. "That insecurity was really the catalyst," he says. But on the inside, they're insecure like everybody else. But as long as they're in the game, even to the very end, they'll watch.