The repercussions could be even greater if your child is at an age when most of their peers are already dating."If everyone your child knows is dating and they are not allowed to, they can start feeling left out and left behind with what the 'norm' is for people their age," says Mc Bain.Through dating, they learn to relate to other people and use communication and active-listening skills, which will help to prepare them for a relationship when they meet the right person.Whatever "rules" you may impose, always tell your child you truly want dating to be a positive, fun experience for them — when the time is right — and that you're up for chatting about it, without judgment or recrimination, whenever they wish.If there is a general rule in place but open conversation can take place, it gives room for parents to express their concern.
Teen dating can be a wonderful and fun time where self confidence is built up, and dating techniques are learned. Attorney General reports that 38 percent of date rape victims are girls between the age of 14 and 17. Teach them how to date, how to have respect for one another and how to protect themselves from emotional and physical hurt. Your relationship for your child speaks far louder than anyone’s words. Help them pay attention to the voice inside that says, “I’m uncomfortable in this situation and don’t want to do this.” Teach them to trust their judgment. Tell your sons that having sex does not make them a man and tell your daughters that having sex does not make them cool. Make sure both your son and daughter understand that, and that they should come to you or another parent/teacher/counselor if they feel at all threatened or oppressed by their boyfriend or girlfriend. “I’m not sure…” from a girl can mean “I just need to be pushed or pressured some more before I say yes” to her date. Tell boys if they hear “No” then proceeding anyway is rape. Tell boys they are not expected to try a million different ways to get sex.It’s important to give them independence — but also supervision.Set ground rules about not being home alone without a parent." "Try not to tie dating to an age, particularly if you have more than one child," warns licensed psychologist Julia Simens.If the child does not have a legitimate point to make, they are simply not ready to date — and you have less work to do to justify your point of view." If you think your child is too young to date, it's important to communicate your reasons for this rather than just saying, "I won't allow this." "It’s important to process the reason so your kid doesn't view dating as a 'bad' thing," says Kitley. Use an open and honest direct approach explaining your reasons why and suggesting what age it would be OK to date." For example, if your kid is barely passing their classes, you might want them to improve their grades before they start dating (not as a punishment, but because spending time on dates would take time away from their studies).Or you might want your child to help out more with household chores to prove they're mature enough to date.