CBS News correspondent Michelle Miller chatted about it with group of middle-schoolers and high-school freshmen from Hackensack, N. She says those views aren't what they used to be regarding the appropriate age to begin to date."I think it doesn't really matter about age too much, if you feel like a relationship could mean something to you," said Jane, 14.The general consensus from the group was that 12 seems to be a good age to begin dating.As both a mother and a clinical psychologist, I too struggle with the correct response to this question. I personally think that 14 is a bit young and that 16 seems more appropriate.But first, we need to educate our kids about dating.We are not genetically predisposed to deal with such things. Double duty In my house, we allowed dating to start at 9th grade.But for my daughter, the boy had to be willing to go on a "double date" with my husband and I first.
So we got a bunch of other couples together to go with us (movies) and I told my Dad it couldn't possibly be a date with that many people there and that it was instead a "gathering". I mean really, this girl you are thinking of is obviously your friend so what would making her your girlfriend change? " I told him that until he was mature enough to answer that question, the answer is NO ... He will be 16 in a couple of weeks, and not only was he able to hold that conversation about a year ago, but he is willing to talk now because he knows I'm open & interested.
It's in movies, on TV, all over the Internet, and in music lyrics. And so they've become really desensitized to it."Hartstein said, "We want to each our kids that it's really not just about sex.
It's really about relationships and caring for another person. Because we get so focused on the sex part, we forget that the relationship comes in behind it, and our kids are missing some of that."She added that there's no definite answer or a set age parents can agree on to allow their children to begin dating.
I'd say maybe 9th grade might be okay, but am not really sure." How young is too young to allow your child to date?
Many moms say that the dating issue is likely to come up for the first time during the tween years, and that it can make a parent surprisingly anxious.