Remind your partner that you care for them even when they're feeling at their worst.
Be curious about what your partner is feeling, wanting, and needing.
It may be as simple as giving them a hug or holding them. When we offer this kind of care, we join our partner in their suffering.
To do this, you will have to learn to be OK with the discomfort that comes with seeing a problem and not trying to fix it. It isn’t their fault that they can’t just shake it off.
The following actions will help you date someone with depression. When we balance this well, we tend to feel fulfilled.
However, when one partner is suffering an illness, it’s easy to lose that balance because we want to help our partner feel better.
You can’t “fix” the depression any more than I can fix my partner’s Crohn’s disease.
When you offer care in hopes of helping to treat (or fix) your partner’s illness, you will become frustrated.
You can stop trying to treat their depression and instead offer empathy, care, and love.You can learn how to support your partner and how to be supported.You can even learn how to get your needs met, even if you can’t imagine how someone who is depressed could meet your needs when they’re working so hard just to be OK themselves. In relationships, we must continually assess whether we should meet the needs of our partners, our own needs, or the needs of the relationship.Their false but strong belief that they have accomplished nothing or that they have little to live for can leave you feeling helpless, and confused as to how to respond.These all-or-nothing, black-and-white thought patterns often illustrate depressed thinking.